I would like to assume that because we are living inside of ourselves that we’re not always conscious of how we treat others and how we are interpreted. Sometimes it’s impossible to have multiple relationships with people and maintain balance without killing yourself. Understanding yourself helps when it comes to dealing with self issues and those of others but it could sometimes be very impossible. Now we all hate to be inconvenienced when someone calls and says “I need” or “can you” but we’ll extend ourselves accordingly. Hopefully when we are in need or when we have an issue that same person/party will be there. Life does not always work according to plan and we oversight or get over sighted at times but…. What happens when it comes to a romantic relationship, hell even a friendship, those are still held in high regard in today’s society, I guess. Think about the person you love right now, how much you love them and all the ways in which they make you feel. Although you cannot always be there you would like to be and want them to know that’s how you feel. These feelings are great but when they’re not mutual there can be potential problems. Sometimes the problems come from you being a punctual person and they’re never on time but because you love them, it’s hard to say so you bite your tongue but it hurts. Not always do you feel the pain of someone taking advantage of your time but we’re all human, then another situation presents itself. You have a busy day scheduled and the person knows and they make sudden changes without your consultation and treat it as if it’s not a major issue. The hurt begins to grow because you feel violated by someone you consider of importance. This is the point where you recognize inconsistency with the individual and you seek clarification. The value of what the relationship is and what your standards are should be the weighing factors. What should be the next step if there’s time invested of how should you communicate your problem? What if this is a person that operates according to them, should we just shut down or move on? As humans we tend to prioritize based on our own wants and needs, leaving the needs of others to become secondary. It‘s hard to be in a relationship when you’re the provider of consistency and you want the same in return. We should teach ourselves by the actions of others and the value of relationships based on actions. To grow tired of inconsistencies of others is when you have to create and honor standards of yourself and project it accordingly. If you open a door every time the same way and it only opens 75% of the time, that’s the door of partial results.
IT IS WHAT IT IS.
interesting and true…
thanks auntie for supporting
LIKE WORDS CAN’T EXPRESS HOW MUCH THIS SPOKE TO ME! “The hurt begins to grow becuz u feel voilated by someone you consider of importance. This is the point where u recognize inconsistency with the individual and u seek clarification” I SO LOVE THIS PASSAGE AND HOPE THOSE IN LOVE RELLI PAY ATTENTION TO THIS, WHEN UR N LOVE MAKE SURE U AREN’T IN LOVE ALONE BECUZ THE WORST FEELING N THE WORLD IS TO TRULY B N LOVE WITH A PERSON AND THAT PERSON NOT FEEL THE SAME WAY. VERY WELL PUT TOGETHER JV WADE. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK
very true and great way to respond with truth. much appreciation!
I am so proud of you cuzzo. Keep doing you!! You inspire me.
Stop writing about me! Jk 😉 Seriously, a total reflection of past behavior (inconsistency)… and the recognition of it and resolving (change) but also being able to understand or deal with others with grace that aren’t consistent because of past experience. However, having the directness to address an issue and move forward… Key elements in relationships: Clarity, Consistency, & Commitment
Your key note,”The value of what the relationship is and what your standards are should be the weighing factors”
Thank you for thoughtfully sharing yours thoughts, we all feel the same in different ways is how i see it; i.e. LIFE lol more to come!
This so made me feel better about a situation that had me feel’n a lil sour…but as I read on the feeling slowly began to melt away as I realized
how much more important I am to myself than the situation…thanxs for the inspiration😘
Thnk you cuz and you’re always the priority and everything else comes after